The Power of Pearls: Part Two.
One is not born a lady. Becoming a lady takes a lifetime of careful cultivation and profound reflection. One does not have the distinctive spark, that defining quality of being a lady right in the beginning. Being a lady means knowing that quiet sense of peace at the end of the day, knowing that you have lived your life for others around you. Being a lady means possessing a quiet grace and wisdom that takes a lifetime to gain and to understand. Being a lady means you are ready to pass on what you have learned to younger generations in order to help them on their life-long journeys. Every woman’s journey to becoming a lady is different; because frankly, every lady is unique in her own feisty, classy and charming way. The journey to become a lady takes a lifetime.
o A lady is confident. In the face of uncertainty, a lady keeps her composure and remembers that she is strong, smart, and fabulous.
o A lady thinks of others first.
o A lady knows that handwritten notes and letters are very important and heartwarming.
o A lady understands that charity is a way of life and not some fancy event. A lady constantly seeks new ways to make the world around her better. Charity is not a status symbol, but something required of all good people.
o A lady does not gossip; she merely shares local news.
o A lady knows that no work is beneath her. She is not afraid to get her hands dirty and build up a good sweat. A true lady gets things done and does not rely upon others to do the hard work.
o A lady memorizes the phrase “Bless your heart” and puts it to good use.
o A lady is sincere and compassionate.
o A lady accepts criticism. A lady understands that she is not perfect and values self improvement. However, a lady does not tolerate criticism if someone is being mean to her just for the sake of being a jerk. A lady will put an end to that (tactfully, of course).
o A lady knows that everyone is different and does not expect every person to be just like her or agree with her on everything. She respects and values differences.
o A lady never thinks she is better than the people around her.
o A lady understands that the whole point of etiquette and being well mannered is to put the people around you at ease, not to impress them or make her look good.
o A lady understands that ladies come in all different sizes and from all backgrounds. A lady is not defined only by the clothes on her back, the amount of money in her account, or the places she frequents. A lady doesn’t have to wear Lilly Pullitzer everyday or drive a BMW to be classy and fabulous.
o A lady never loses control of herself at social events. If a lady is made uncomfortable by her surroundings, she quietly leaves without calling attention to herself.
o A lady never over indulges. Sometimes mistakes happen, because a lady is not perfect. But a lady never lets herself make the same mistake twice because she does not want to be a burden on others or garner a bad reputation.
o A lady stands up for her beliefs.